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Paisley Gilmour's avatar

Holy shit can you please get out of my brain! Been feeling all of this the past year or so, but haven't been able to articulate it as beautifully as you have.

P.S. Thanks for the bath + cold gin and tonic inspo. Will be doing that tonight while I continue to ignore my unread WhatsApps

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Rachel New's avatar

This article made me laugh a lot, esp this bit: "the excruciating, futile attempts to “find a date we can all do” when trying to meet up with a group of friends. I don’t know if it’s the endless fucking groupchats for every little aspect of life (my son’s class at school, my son’s afterschool club, every single birthday party my son ever gets invited to). I don’t know if it’s my mum’s habit of texting me three follow-up question marks if a message of hers goes unanswered for more than eight hours. Somewhere along the way I’ve fallen hard out of love with texting."

I def did a lot less messaging in 2023 and it did feel like harder work, and you've really captured why that is. My boyfriend and I are developing a minimalist form of communication involving veg emojis e.g. broccoli means "I know you're feeling anti-social and down right now so I'm only very gently suggesting we might meet for a drink because you've said in the past that you do actually feel better once you've had some social interaction". A cauliflower means "I'd like to do that thing in bed this weekend". It's a lot less work and so far actually less opportunities for misunderstanding.

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